May I Please Attend That Party
Ever since i exited high school i have been invited to a lot more parties and events. Whether or not i attend all these parties and events is another story. If you're a girl who can't drive a car yet & have controlling parents, you might want to master the art of persuading your parents to allow you to attend these functions. So, here are some tips on how the way you communicate with them can effect their decision.
1. Pick the right timing
- Do not ask permission to go out when parents are busy or tired. It never works. Do not ask in front of their friends. They lose face when they have to say no to you in front of their friends [you'll get fried when you get home if you try that & they may ground you for life!] Use low context culture - save their face.
2. Watch your tone
- Do not raise your voice [even when you feel like doing it]. The tone of our voice is a non-verbal communication. We might not use words to threaten them, but our tone may be threatening enough to make them say no.
3. Body Language
- Smile and be natural. No hands on the hips [it indicates superiority]. Don't cross your hands across your chest either. Go up to them & talk to them. Don't face Facebook while talking to them. Make eye contact & don't lean against the wall. Stand upright [parents don't like to see kids leaning. They think its lazyness].
4. Choice of words
- Use the 'I' language instead of the 'You' language. For example, don't go, "You never let me out with my friends. You are not as liberal as my friends mother." That is the last statement you would want to make if you're trying to gain freedom. One could perhaps go, "Mum, I THINK i want to go for this party because....[your reason].... Is it ok with you?" Also notice the word THINK. THINK makes parents realise that you are not making the decision. Instead, you're consulting their opinion first. This will soften them up and make them less defensive. You might sneak out anyhow even if they say no, but the point is that you're being diplomatic and using psychology to get around them [it works!]
After event....
So, after they decide to allow you to go, you go & have a time of your life. But wait! There's more to it. Here's what your should do after the funtion to ensure that they'll allow you out in the future.
1. Stick to the CURFEW
- Passing the curfew will only mean no more functions. By sticking to the curfew, you are indirectly communicating to your parents that you are responsible and that they can trust you.
2. Say thank you
- Show them you appreciate their effort in driving you about. Show them you are grateful that they finally let you out of the house =P. It can be verbal or non-verbal. You could just say thank you & i love you or you could choose to perhaps give them a hug [parents love it when their teens hug them....awww...]
3. Prove to them that they did the right thing letting you out
- This means, not flunking the next day's pop quiz. This also includes showing some awesome possum exam results [parents tend to make faulty assumptions that bad results = too much outings]
Master the art of communicating with parents. Try these steps out & BREAK FREE =P. Good Luck!
Signing off,
Jane Tai
1. Pick the right timing
- Do not ask permission to go out when parents are busy or tired. It never works. Do not ask in front of their friends. They lose face when they have to say no to you in front of their friends [you'll get fried when you get home if you try that & they may ground you for life!] Use low context culture - save their face.
2. Watch your tone
- Do not raise your voice [even when you feel like doing it]. The tone of our voice is a non-verbal communication. We might not use words to threaten them, but our tone may be threatening enough to make them say no.
3. Body Language
- Smile and be natural. No hands on the hips [it indicates superiority]. Don't cross your hands across your chest either. Go up to them & talk to them. Don't face Facebook while talking to them. Make eye contact & don't lean against the wall. Stand upright [parents don't like to see kids leaning. They think its lazyness].
4. Choice of words
- Use the 'I' language instead of the 'You' language. For example, don't go, "You never let me out with my friends. You are not as liberal as my friends mother." That is the last statement you would want to make if you're trying to gain freedom. One could perhaps go, "Mum, I THINK i want to go for this party because....[your reason].... Is it ok with you?" Also notice the word THINK. THINK makes parents realise that you are not making the decision. Instead, you're consulting their opinion first. This will soften them up and make them less defensive. You might sneak out anyhow even if they say no, but the point is that you're being diplomatic and using psychology to get around them [it works!]
After event....
So, after they decide to allow you to go, you go & have a time of your life. But wait! There's more to it. Here's what your should do after the funtion to ensure that they'll allow you out in the future.
1. Stick to the CURFEW
- Passing the curfew will only mean no more functions. By sticking to the curfew, you are indirectly communicating to your parents that you are responsible and that they can trust you.
2. Say thank you
- Show them you appreciate their effort in driving you about. Show them you are grateful that they finally let you out of the house =P. It can be verbal or non-verbal. You could just say thank you & i love you or you could choose to perhaps give them a hug [parents love it when their teens hug them....awww...]
3. Prove to them that they did the right thing letting you out
- This means, not flunking the next day's pop quiz. This also includes showing some awesome possum exam results [parents tend to make faulty assumptions that bad results = too much outings]
Master the art of communicating with parents. Try these steps out & BREAK FREE =P. Good Luck!
Signing off,
Jane Tai
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Monday, July 06, 2009
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